Learning What’s Important During A Crisis

shareasimageIf we are Facebook friends, it’s no secret that I really really dislike winters here in Michigan – and that dislike seems to get worse each year. It’s also no secret that Florida is one of my favorite places and that a couple years ago I started talking about moving down there once my son graduates high school.

This year I was blessed to get to spend three weeks in the sunshine state! It really solidified my decision that I would be moving to Florida in a couple years (my son is currently at the end of his 10th grade year). It was so hard having to come back to Michigan after such an incredible three weeks in Florida. But I was also ready because I missed my son and my family. As crazy (in a good way) as my family is, I missed them more than I was willing to admit – especially considering I had lived for the last three years, three hours away from everyone (that’s a whole nother post for another day).

So I came back to Michigan knowing that I needed to start planning. After all a couple years isn’t that long and a move to a different state takes some planning! But all of a sudden, in the matter of seconds and one phone call my whole life was turned upside down.

Life can change so quickly – the start of a crisis 

On Monday, April 13th my 4 year old nephew Braylan was diagnosed with leukemia. It’s been a very rough up and down roller coaster ride over the last month. I never thought I could ever love a child more than I love my own son but all of this has made me realize how much I love not just Braylan but all my nieces and nephews. And how much I love my crazy sometimes dysfunctional family too!

I’ve been reminded through this journey how important family is and the support of family during rough patches. Look at this amazing picture…Braylan was so upset over losing his hair that my brother (his dad), my step dad and my brother-in-law all stepped up and shaved their heads to be like Bray Bray. The picture melts my heart – it’s sad but tells such an awesome story of love and support….

Braylans Healing Journey

My heart has broken over and over the last month and I’ve experienced so many different emotions. While we don’t know what the future holds, the doctors are very optimistic (and I have faith that God will heal Bray Bray completely) that he’ll be in remission soon and will grow up to live a normal life.

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking and soul searching, this last month, about what I want from life. And one of the biggest decisions I came to is that I don’t want to move to another state – the thought of being that far away from my family on a permanent basis makes me sad! What I want is to be a snow bird – spend my winters in Florida and the rest of the time here in Michigan with all my crazy family around :-)

I’ve thought about whether or not I’m making a decision to stay in Michigan because of what’s currently going on – yes, that’s part of it even though I wouldn’t be moving for a few years, but this whole experience has made me realize that I want to be around something that is very important to me – family.  It seems sad that it’s taken a crisis for me to realize this, but I think a crisis can be a huge awakening and learning opportunity if we choose to look at it that way.

Having my own businesses (Tishia Saves Time & Faithful Bloggers) that are ran solely online, provides me the freedom to be able to make this a reality (becoming a snow bird) because I can work from anywhere as long as I have internet!

So I’m changing course and looking forward to where my ship will sail…here in Michigan!

How about you – care to share something you learned during a crisis?

Baby Steps DO Count!

20150412_162200As you can probably tell, I don’t post here often. I used to, but I deleted all the old content. Going through some of that stuff brought laughter and other stuff brought tears while other stuff reminded me of how far I’ve come over the years.  Speaking of how far I’ve come I wanted to share something with you today.

I went for a one mile walk.

I know. To some that probably doesn’t seem like a big deal. But for me, it’s a really big deal. You see a few months ago, I couldn’t even walk through the grocery store without breaking into a sweat, my heart racing, feeling light headed and my knees/back hurting.

Not long ago I went to the mall to go shopping with a friend and had to sit the entire time she shopped because I was sweating so bad, couldn’t catch my breath and hurt just from walking from the car to the inside of the mall.

On February 6th I went out dancing with some friends to celebrate my upcoming 40th birthday. After just a few songs I thought I was going to pass out (and oh how I wanted to dance the night away!). I was dizzy, my heart was racing, I was sweating profusely and I couldn’t catch my breath. As I went outside to try and cool down, unbeknownst to me there was a conversation going on about whether an ambulance needed to be called. In the end, one wasn’t called. [Read more…]

Self Love, Confidence, Change… Oh My!

2014 Theme WordsIt’s been a long time since I’ve wrote on here and I really miss it. I miss just having this space to write for no reason other than because I want to do it. I went through a phase where I started feeling silly for having this blog – feeling like I was too old to have a ‘just for fun’ sort of blog. But I’ve learned something the last few days (in light of my 39th birthday)…I’m not too old to do things that make me happy! And writing here used to make me happy and I miss it, so I’m coming back to this place, but only when I feel the urge to write! Anyways…enough lame small talk. It’s time to get to good stuff – my 2014 words.

I was always one of those people who had good intentions to follow my New Years Resolutions. And I did…for about 3 weeks maybe a little longer. I just never stuck to them. Then a few years ago I was introduced to the concept of choosing a word(s) – no more than 3 though – as your theme for the year. Here’s a post about it for this year. It made a lot more sense to me to pick a word or two that would be my theme for the year. Last year (2013) one of my theme words was creative and that gave me an ‘excuse’ to dig a little deeper into my photography hobby.

This year there were 3 words that jumped off the page and resonated with me: [Read more…]