I just finished reading this book (Better Single Than Sorry: A No-Regrets Guide to Loving Yourself and Never Settling) that was written by Jen Schefft who won 2003’s The Bachelor (the year Andrew Firestone was the Bachelor) and starred in 2004’s The Bachelorette. In her book she talks about how rudely people treated her and all the nasty comments she received fro walking away from a relationship with Andrew Firestone and I have to admit I thought she was crazy for giving up all that he had to offer and hello he’s pretty good looking too But as she said in the book, he is a great guy just not great for her. I’m all about being happy over being with someone just for the sake of being with them (too bad I didn’t learn that many moons ago but hey live and learn right?).

Anyways I loved loved loved the book! It just goes along with everything I’ve been realizing lately. It’s all about learning to love ourselves and never settling. I’ve had some major realizations lately and it’s such a good feeling knowing that it’s ok to be single! There’s nothing wrong me. As Jen points out in the book - sometimes as singles we are made to feel like there is something wrong with us. But not only is it ok to be single I think it’s empowering. It makes me feel awesome knowing that I’m doing everything on my own with no help from anyone let alone a man.

A couple statistics I found in the book that really stood out were:

Although the average age of women when they walk down the aisle is 25, according to the U.S. Census Bureau, in 2003, 23 percent of women ages 30 to 34 had never been married - that’s up from only 6 percent in 1970.

Women who marry over age 30 only have about a 15 percent chance of getting divorced; for women five years younger, it’s 25 percent!

I laughed out loud when I read something she wrote in the book, even though it’s not really a laughing matter because it’s oh so true! Jen wrote, “Just as pregnant women can have a false contraction, women in search of The One can have a false “I know.” I know exactly what she means because oh let’s just say I’ve had my fair share of ‘Braxton Hicks’ Men Contractions (the oh he’s the one!). LOL

Anyways it was a great book and to all the single gals out there I give it a thumbs up and you should read it.

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I just finished reading War Journal My Five Years in Iraq - Richard Engel NBC News Middle East Correspondent. It was definitely an interesting read but very descriptive…sometimes too real for me. It probably wasn’t the most brilliant book for me to choose considering my boyfriend is over there at the moment. I heard it was good and regardless of the fact it was about the war I had to read it.

I’m still speechless over some of the stuff I read. There were things I didn’t agree with, things I did agree with and then there were the parts of the book that got my undies in a bunch! The one thing that drew me to the book was the realness, the rawness of it. As I said above some of it was a bit too descriptive for me but for the most part I truly enjoyed it and it shed some new light on everything.

Orphanage:

One section of the book brought me to tears. Engel was telling about visiting the Alwiya orphanage, home to 56 girls aged 6-13. He shared about how these girls hungered for attention, it was just as much a need as food and water but they didn’t get it. A social worker told Engel “They need attention and there is no love here in Baghdad. We can’t give them what they really want, their mother’s touch.” While that broke my heart, it’s not a unique situation I’m sure. All orphanages can’t provide what children really need. As I read more it broke my heart to think how scary it must be for those kids being in the midst of a war not having a mother or father to look to, to feel safe. Engel went on to write about the girls calling the cameraman “daddy” and asking him (Engel) if he had any children and if he would adopt them. Now that broke my heart. I can’t imagine. He even stated that he had never been as affected by a story.

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I wasted $5.50 at the theater today. Such a disappointment considering it’s taken me years to finally get the courage up to attend a movie by myself! I always had this thing with going to a movie by myself…felt that people would judge me, make fun of me, blah blah blah. I finally came to the point where I realized that it didn’t matter what other people thought of me going to a movie by myself. And for $5.50 for a matinee I couldn’t pass it up.

I have a thing for Mark Wahlberg and that was the deciding factor in what to go see. It was a toss up between The Love Guru with Mike Meyers, Kung Fu Panda with Jack Black or The Happening with Mark Wahlberg. Kung Fu Panda was out because I wasn’t in the mood for a cartoon w/out Caleb. I couldn’t get any feedback on Love Guru because no one I talked to had seen it yet. I got mixed reviews on The Happening. Some said it was scary & that I shouldn’t see it (I’m a baby when it comes to scary movies!), my sister Nicole thought it was great, a couple other people said they didn’t really have an opinion and then a couple other people didn’t like it.

I always like to watch a movie for myself regardless of what others say just to see for myself. Well sadly I wish I would of listened to those that said they didn’t like it. I was very disappointed with it. It was tacky, weird, stupid, dumb…yeah you get the point. I totally give this movie two thumbs down! Even with Mark Wahlberg in it, I still give it thumbs down. Even he didn’t make the movie worth my $5.50! LOL

I also left there with a huge huge headache because the screen was so blurry through most of the movie. At least that’s what I thought my headache was from but I’m not so sure. I was sick to my stomach last night and a little bit today but it’s gotten worse and after a couple recent trips to the bathroom I think I have the flu or something. Yuck. Time to go lay down and see if there is anything interesting on TV…Lifetime usually has some interesting movies on during the weekend. Lifetime - television for women. There’s just something about that line that makes me laugh.

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A half a roll of toilet paper (I am out of Kleenex), runny nose, a severe headache, 4 Tylenol, red swollen eyes and tear stained cheeks.

That’s what I call chic flick heaven!

I tried going to bed around 11:30pm, no actually I think it was 12:30am, but I couldn’t sleep.

P.S. I Love You was calling my name.

I’ve been crying since the beginning of the movie. And when I say beginning, I mean I was crying within like the first 15 minutes!!!! When a movie makes you cry at the very beginning you know it’s gonna be a tear jerker. I don’t know that I’ve ever seen a movie that has had me crying from the get go like this one did.

Man it was good! I absolutely fell in love with this movie & it’s one of those that I can watch over and over and over! I so want this movie for my personal collection!!! I loved the accents of the Irish men. There’s just something about a man with an accent that makes my knees go weak (I can’t wait to hear Seth’s voice and that Boston accent of his!!! I’m swooning already just thinking about it).

It’s 2:55am right now (by the time ya’ll read this it will be much later) and I’m getting ready to put my runny nose, teary eyed butt to bed. I don’t think the tears are gonna stop anytime soon. It’s after midnight and that means it’s Sunday. That means it’s been three weeks since I’ve had communication with Seth. I’m ok with it other than I’m just really missing him but I know this is how things will always be. It’s weird how I do ok with it but then all of a sudden I have a bad day or a bad moment and I can’t stop thinking about how much I just want to talk to him.

Anyways…

My eyes are burning, my head is throbbing and it’s hard to see through tears so I’m really going to bed now!

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Sometimes I just enjoy alone time and today is one of those! Caleb left to go to his dad’s earlier and my plan was to sit and do work all day on the computer but I wasn’t feeling ‘it’. I knew that I needed some me time to just chill out for a couple hours. I was in the mood for some chic flicks…gotta love chic flicks I took a nice walk up to the video store and rented 27 Dresses and PS I Love You.

I was going to watch PS I Love You first but I opted to skip it for right now because I was already feeling a tad bit emotional (me emotional? no way! LMAO) and everyone has said that this a big ole tear jerker. So I went for 27 Dresses first.

I knew I was going to love it (27 Dresses) because everyone that’s seen it has said it was good plus Katherine Heigl (who plays Izzie on Grey’s Anatomy) is awesome and I love her. And yep I did I totally loved it…loved loved loved it! And it didn’t hurt that James Marsden was pretty nice eye candy to look at throughout the movie

The funny thing is I chose this movie because I thought it was one that I wouldn’t cry watching. WRONG! I cried. I definitely giggled more than cried but I still cried. I laughed so hard at one point during the movie when Jane (Katherine) finally stood up for herself and got ticked at her sister. I don’t remember the exact words she said but it was great. Her sister cut up their mother’s wedding dress because she thought it was too old fashioned to wear it as was. Jane & her sis got in a big ole fight & Tess (the sister) told Jane that she wouldn’t hurt anyone because she wouldn’t hurt a fly and especially not her because they were sisters. Jane got up and said that was yesterday, today you are just a bi*ch that cut up my mothers wedding dress and pissed me off. I busted out laughing because it was hilarious but also because I saw myself in her. I’ve always been one of those never say no type people but eventually you get to the point that you can’t take it anymore. So yeah it was just a great part of the movie and I laughed so hard because it sounded hilarious when she said it!

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